A lot of ingenuity went into acquiring this coveted game...
We are all changing
in big ways, here, just now.
Change of this
nature usually comes with a certain degree of, and maybe happens
because of, turbulence. Children stretching toward adulthood
sometimes make sudden great leaps forward, or skid back on the
slippery gravel of maturity....
are few constants, in children. They are change in human form,
metamorphosis occurring in our own homes, whether we are paying
attention or not.
and new perspectives for us all. Annalise has become, of a sudden,
not only an independent reader, but an avid, engaged seeker of
meaning in the written word. She received a copy of The
Keeping of You,
an American Girl book
about the tween to teen years, and the buffet of changes already
beginning, for her. She is happy to know that she is not the only
girl her age who has had a resurgence of nightmares.
have had lots of snow. Maybe about a foot, in two substantial storms,
thankfully both afterWinter Storm Draco,
which blew off our rubberized roofing material.
kids have been outside a lot. They've been with their Kindlesa lot, and Annalise was overjoyed when Jim found her3DSin the couch on
Christmas morning. It had been lost since last spring, and she had
missed it greatly (it was loaded with pictures, including some of Margot, who died in September, and great apps, some of
which she had bought herself.).
Annalise's half birthday cupcakes. Delicious!
had some turmoil, but these moments are less frequent and, on the
whole, far less intense, as time goes by.
spend a lot of time, here, talking about how to get along, practicing
negotiation skills, reflecting on mistakes we've made, and searching
for better answers and ways of being together. We don't only do it
when there is a disagreement. It's part of life, like feeding the
pets, traveling, learning, snuggling, and the type of chatter that
makes talking about how we connect and relate natural and
are all building tool boxes of sorts, individualized to our ways of
perceiving others, dealing with others, and our specific natures and
experiences. We are all learning, and the result is that, when there
is the inevitable conflict, we have more skills to bring to bear to
deal, not with attempting to win, but to the issue at hand, so that
everyone can be heard and know that what matters to them will be
Annalise Sedona, age eight and a half!
is so much in our lives that does not fit into a frame most people
will understand. So very much gets assumed, and many people never
question those assumptions. Some, maybe, don't even know that they
believe as they do, because they are not of an introspective nature.
been questioning assumptions for a few years, now, and shedding
them...the last few weeks have been a rather intense self-examination
and deepening, as epiphanies and new understandings have come almost
so quickly that they trip over each other!
would share these, if I could, but most are deeper than words, and
not easy to express, with language. I suspect they will reveal
themselves, as echoes and shadings in my writing and my living.